I understand. Legacies/lineages can be full of the unspoken, encrusted and strangely strangling as well whatever lends strength to carry on. It requires some effort to figure out what's familial or inherited (incl. from society) from what's a matter of one's personal fate/karma/destiny. Maybe they're never fully separable? I know I struggle to untangle them enough to figure out what's to be dealt with/moved past, etc.